Dakini Shakti teaching on Love and Relationship for Seekers


Sedona Temple closed as a brothel in the USA: friends and colleagues arrested

This “we work with sexological bodywork or sexuality but we are not sex workers” thing has come to a head in the USA. This challenge and opportunity that affects all those who work with sexuality. A noted South African sexologist has entombed her practice in academia in order to ensure her position on the farthest side of the sex worker scale. She still sells sex toys at great cost when you come for counselling, but this she has rationalised.

Friends, colleagues and teachers in the USA have been arrested on charges of prostitution and profiteering from prostitution. They have been arrested for doing sex work, when it may be that they have not resolved this issue for themselves. Better to embrace the fact that one is a sex worker, be very careful about your work, and align with organisations mobilising for change in the laws than to pretend to be separate entities entirely.

We hear such mixed views on this topic: “The temples of old housed temple prostitutes therefore sex work is a noble profession” versus “This is not sex work, I am but a spiritual guide.” And of course all shades of grey in between, all levels of proficiency in being able to hold the core of one’s work with integrity. Sounds as complex as it should be- since complexity is the beautiful expression of Life.

Sex is blooming hard to regulate if you are a politician, policeman, lawmaker, religion. Darn, Life is so messy and so grey and indeterminate at times. Life is just so… defiantly prolific! Just as you make up one rule for a particular circumstance another arises…

My first loves (gosh I’m so ‘poly’), are the altered states of meditation that arise in the body and breath and subtle energy flow. Any kind of kink, or even plain old therapeutic massage, if done well can take one there- its about the individual capacity for dropping into experience. I like living in those states, and finding more of them. They are only useful if awareness and consciousness results, otherwise they are just playing. Nothing wrong with playing.

Arnold Mindell calls these altered states living the dreambody: and it can be accessed in many ways. The dreambody is the Soul speaking, shouting for attention. She speaks in many ways: through meditation, being ill or dying, having sex, becoming mentally ill or living through a catastrophic event etc. Guess which ways are more popular for those seeking the Soul?

The truth is that ‘sex’ (and my definition is ‘a state of being which involves sexual energy being raised and felt’- this can happen in a conversation),  need not come into it at all, unless this way has been specifically chosen by an individual’s Soul. That is up to God/Fate/Fortuna and a seeker’s courage. But it might.

Should hundreds of people across America wish to use the Way of Sex for personal growth and pay for teachers, facilitators and guides- or playmates- I think that they should be allowed to. I don’t care if you call it tantra or sex work or sensual massage or sexological bodywork.

Sexual expression and identity is our most fundamental freedom- this is a core issue and now the Soul of America is dreaming itself into being. Consider, even, the police and lawmakers as allies in this struggle. How will we support her?

Celebrating Dakini Shakti’s Return To Cape Town

A beautiful gathering took place at Dakini Shakti’s house on Saturday night, in Cape Town.

We got to hear stories of her adventures in the UK, America, Russia, Kazakhstan and Turkey. Students and friends gathered and laughed, and danced. We remembered her father with love, who passed very recently after her homecoming.

To see stories about the travels, particularly Russia and Scotland, of which I speak, see here http://www.blog.shakti.co.za/

Nadabrahma Meditation and Talk with Dakini Shima

A beautiful evening at a venue in Rondebosch- complete with roaring fireplace, spent with a group responding to a talk by Dakini Shima about the calling of the Daka/ Dakini and Tantra. Having invited about 7 of the attendees I admit I felt anxious at times; where they going to get something out of it?

I was very inspired by the talk Shima gave. I felt reassured by the inclusive manner of her teaching:; her embodied awareness. She may as well have read from the Dr Seuss Book: “Oh The Places You’ll Go!!” given the wonderful stories of her Tantric path travels! Awareness is all, and she embodies this so beautifully.

Things about the talk on the calling of the Daka and Dakini that stood out for me:

  • A Dakini is a provoker to awareness; this is her role.
  • Tantra is a method of awakening, there are many.
  • She is there to confront stories to enable opening into the real, into the beloved moment just as it is.
  • Dakini is a state of being.
  • Regarding ‘ego death’: perhaps the only thing that can truly die is that which never existed.

After the talk a few gluttons stayed for a meditation. We did this meditation of Osho’s which Shima was surprised to hear that the Cape Town school hadn’t done before.

Osho Nadabrahma Meditation TM

Nadabrahma meditation lasts for one hour and has three stages. It is a sitting method, in which humming and hand movements create an inner balance, a harmony between mind and body. Suitable for any time of the day, have an empty stomach and remain inactive for at least fifteen minutes afterwards.

“So in Nadabrahma, remember this: let the body and mind be totally together, but remember that you have to become a witness. Get out of them, easily, slowly, from the back door, with no fight, with no struggle.” Osho

The arm movements allow one to explore the experience of giving and receiving, an appropriate meditation for those feeling called to work with others. I enjoyed immersing myself in the meditation and learned quite a lot about my relationship with giving and receiving- and some of the subtle movements in the gestures which are very powerful.